Happy For No Reason (Part Two)

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven” ~John Milton

“According to scientists, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day. It is one thought per second during every waking hour. For the average person, 80 % of these habitual thoughts are negative. Every day we have more than 45,000 negative thoughts. Of those 60,000, 95% are the same thoughts you had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before that.

Your thoughts aren’t always true.

We are so accustomed to believing our thoughts are true and automatically reacting to them, that we’re hardly aware we are doing it. Until we become aware of this, our path to happy for no reason is blocked.

You don’t’ believe everything you hear, do you? Of course not. You don’t believe everything you read either. And in this age of special effects and Photoshop, you certainly can’t believe everything you see. So …

Don’t believe everything you think! All suffering comes from believing our thoughts.

Thought are just packets of energy formed by neurochemical events in your brain, which can be measured in terms of electrical impulses and wave frequencies. Your thoughts don’t always give you an accurate picture of reality, yet your mind goes on broadcasting them anyway. When you shine a light on your negative thoughts – and see that you don’t have to believe them – it takes away much of their power to create misery. They have a strong grip on us, because we are wired that way. It stems from our primitive survival mechanisms that have run amok.

2 greatest barriers to happiness, fear and anxiety, have been hardwired in us for millennia to ensure our survival as a species. In today’s world this old wiring has become more harmful than helpful.”

In Borneo, the natives have an ingenious technique for capturing the wild monkeys that raid their crops and stores of food. They take an empty coconut shell and make a small hole in it, just large enough for a monkey’s hand. They out some rice into the coconut for bait and tie the coconut to the ground. The grieving monkey smelling the food comes to investigate. He sticks his hand inside the coconut to grab the rice but when he tried to pull out, because it’s clasped in a fist around the rice, it will not fit through a hole anymore. To escape the trap, monkey must let go of the rice. Because they will not let go, the monkeys of Borneo remain trapped.

A lot of us just like those monkeys: trapped by our negative thoughts because we just won’t let go of them. And the more we resist them, the more they stick around. It doesn’t help to try pushing them away – they’ll just keep coming back.

Marci suggests “Is it really true?” exercise, which helps understand a lot of what we think is not true www.happyfornoreason.com/bookgifts.

Happiness habits for empowerment:

  1. Focus on the solution
  2. Look for the lesson and the gift
  3. Make peace with yourself

According to the Dalai Lama, it is important to know which habits support happiness in your life and which don’t. In his book, The Art of Happiness, he writes:

“One begins identifying those factors which lead to happiness and those factors which lead to suffering. Having done this, one then sets about gradually eliminating those factors which lead to suffering and cultivating those which lead to happiness. That is the way.”

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